My husband and I have somewhat different values that can cause some friction between us, and I am wondering how to deal with it.

For instance, we did sanding in our bedroom and the dust gets everywhere. It got into the inside of a light switch, which broke the switch. He wants to buy a new light switch, then "return it" by putting the old one in the box, so essentially we get a new one for free.

I tried very hard to suspend judgment and listen to his point of view. He feels that he has been screwed over by companies in the past that make defective products, that it's not fair he should have to spend money for a replacement, it won't really harm the company since it's just one light switch, he doesn't even know I'd it's the fault of the dust (I think this is a justification-- it seems to have had a very obvious cause and effect), etc. He admits the ethical thing to do is not to return it, yet he still wants to. I think it sucks it broke, but it's not the company's fault and we could have protected the light switch better to prevent this. To me it's not fair for the company to shoulder the burden.

My husband thinks I have the moral highground with just about any issue and in general feels very afraid of judgment from me. I do admittedly struggle with accepting this part of him, as being kind and doing the right thing is at the top of my list of values. Plus one day when we have kids, I worry about how we will raise them.

Just to give you a balanced perspective, he is a good person and kind to others. But some of these issues that come up are difficult to work through.

How can I fully respect/not judge him when I feel like he's willing to do the wrong thing for selfish gain sometimes? Admittedly I am not perfect, so maybe reminding myself he's an imperfect human being and working to understand more and more how he became this way? If you feel I am being unreasonable, by all means feel free to knock me down a few pegs. I want to know your genuine opinion and how I can address this in my relationship. Can I ask him "hard" questions to help him grow (though that he may find painful for fear of my judgment)?