Dave, CEN definitely has a lifelong negative affect. If we believed we weren't good enough for our parents, until we understand their position and depersonalize from it, we will always feel we're not good enough, period.. and mainly to ourselves. We have a deep rooted sense of shame and a lot can trigger our sense of wellbeing.

If your partner is supportive, talk with her about this. It's ok for her to place compliments on others. Maybe use that time to do a little positive self-talk.

Is there something going on in your present life you're not liking? Whatever it is, work on those and keep building your self-esteem. Eventually, you'll be able to separate how your parents treated you from how you trest yourself.. if thst makes sense.