I agree with (Tainted) as well. I think it's great if you can forgive, because I do think it lifts a heavy weight off you.
But I also think there are times when it's just not possible and NO ONE is a bad person because they cannot forgive. I think abuse and murder are two of the biggest area's where forgiveness sometimes is just not an option and I totally get that.
In the end hopefully we can try and heal in what ever way works for us.