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Apr 27, 2021, 04:14 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,078
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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Yes, I’m aware. What I’m taken aback by is I’m nothing like him so it’s hard to comprehend. I’m loyal and honest to a fault, ethical, moral, genuine and decent. He is none of the above. Because we’re so opposite, I can’t wrap my brain around his false facade and immoral behavior. He will praise and defend his so called integrity til the cows come home, but then he’ll behave the opposite. He’s just a total liar and a fake and I cannot relate to this type of personality at all.
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What amazes me more is that we saw the red flags before we got married & talked ourselves out of paying attention to them & actually calling off our weddings.
Yep, in my case my ex was a nice guy but a loser when it came to personality in the overall sense.....which showed up immediately after the wedding because it was there before.
I don't know about you, but those red flags I saw before the wedding put me on the defensive in the marriage because I wasn't willing to put up with the crap that caused the red flags in the first place. I actually addressed the issues before the wedding & said I don't want to get married if this is how you are. Yep, assured me that all my demands were ok until after the wedding. All 33 years of our marriage were nothing but fighting & my career was my escape rather than divorce till I could leave.
Different reasons for their behaviors & different behaviors ( mine was a majority of financial issues & lying about them, not an outside relationship) but the results end up being pretty similar.
Be glad you didn't own a house together. 3 years after my divorce I am still in a law suit against my ex in a state 2100 miles from where I live. They can be real @$$'s when things don't go the way they want. My ex has totally ignored communicating with all 3 lawyers I have hired to deal with this.
You will get through this.....just stay determined & stay strong
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Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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