> in this book it read that it is the most horrible thing that can bedone to a child...

Sometimes I think that that sort of condemnation is almost worse than the crime -- certainly for the victim. It makes a bad thing worse. A small child will pick up the sense of how its parents feel about things, without the ability to separate itself from the parents' judgement, without the perspective to disagree with the parents' judgement. A small child feels the parents must be right in how they see things -- and it is not necessarily so.

I hope I am making sense, and not making your situation worse...