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I think the commercialization of Mother's Day is a sad thing.

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50guy - I am SO with you on that one. The last thing I want on Mother's Day (or Valentines) is a store-bought gift or "brunch" at a local restaurant. It feels like forced love. I always cherished those gifts my son made for me at school when he was little, but what I really want is for him to SHOW me how much he cares - every day. I can't be bought. He can show me by proving to me he's learned what I've taught him. It also feels weird for someone who's not my child to tell me "Happy Mother's Day."

Razzleberry - Considering your daughter's age, I agree it was very rude of him not to acknowledge you on Mother's Day. My sister had that problem with her husband, and it never improved. He just wasn't the romantic type, even when she spelled out for him what she wanted from him the next year. Then again, she never bent over backwards to please him either. There were times during the early years when I'd see him make an awkward attempt, only to have her push him away. She was more concerned with maintaining their home, schedule, and standing in their community.

Over time, their love life died and their marriage became more like a business relationship, staying together just to raise their son. When their son was in college, my sister found out her husband was seeing someone else. They attended marriage counseling, but he asked for a divorce and married the other woman. His reason for leaving was because he never felt any love or affection from my sister.

I always wondered if my sister would have gushed a little more over her husband, he might have returned the favor. Maybe if HE felt needed, not just his money or what he could do for her around the house, he might have stayed.

If it were me, I'd let it go - but I'd treat my husband like a king on Father's Day. He might get the hint, but he probably won't. It also wouldn't hurt for you to do something special for him on a regular day, just because, to show him how much you love him.

If your husband is anything like my ex-BIL, it's possible he's feeling used and withholding affection is his only weapon of defense.

If he's not like my ex-BIL, disregard this message. I'm sorry to hear your Mother's Day sucked - glad you had a good time with your daughter though!