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Old Apr 30, 2021, 07:38 AM
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
I'm seeking valIdation right now, not logical reasoning. I cannot be validated by him, so I am looking for validation here right now.

I do know all this in my logical mind - I am dealing with the emotions of it.

Telling me I give him too much power feels like criticism when I'm already very low and feel disempowered. I am seeking empowerment, not criticism. I need to be lifted up.
There is no criticism. I thought suggesting that he and his opinions are not more important that what you think would empower you.

I feel that everyone offered a lot of validation, acknowledgement and support and giving you many suggestions and uplifting and empowering you in many ways possible. I know for sure I offered all that over the months and years. For quite some time I wasn’t the only one responding on threads about your husband offering support and empowering you. You can’t possibly say you weren’t getting all of that on this forum and from me in particular.

I am bowing out.