I guess it’s that even on his best behavior he was still abusive, crossing my boundaries and ignoring my stated needs and requests. He won’t acknowledge this and thinks he was mr Golden boy husband over the last 2 months, but he wasn’t. He constantly shoved his feelings at me, leaving no room for mine. He pushed the relationship on me constantly, despite me saying several times that I needed him to go slowly. He practically moved himself back in within a matter of weeks! Then In therapy when I told him I am still very angry with him over his abuse and infidelity, he completely ignored it!

I feel like anything I said and asked was just completely dismissed. When I hear on here that I give him too much power, the truth is, he gave me no power at all by ignoring everything I stated and needed.

I guess I need to find other places besides with him where I can feel empowered again and need suggestions. I had NO voice in this relationship, and therefore, I feel really disempowered right now.