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Apr 30, 2021, 09:36 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,079
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Originally Posted by Have Hope
I'm seeking valIdation right now, not logical reasoning. I cannot be validated by him, so I am looking for validation here right now.
I do know all this in my logical mind - I am dealing with the emotions of it.
Telling me I give him too much power feels like criticism when I'm already very low and feel disempowered. I am seeking empowerment, not criticism. I need to be lifted up.
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Maybe your logical thinking is what is in need of validation rather than the emotions. Feelings are just that....feelings, NOT FACTS. Sometimes self validation works best for emotions because we need to accept in our own mind that our feelings are accurate for the circumstances for what we are experiencing. When our emotions override our logicical thinking we create our own problems & when emotions do not speak the truth others will not validate them when they speak against what truth is. Emotions being validated is one thing, validating wrong thinking is a whole other thing
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