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Apr 30, 2021, 10:30 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967
My daughter is not going to be able to go to Florida with us this year. I’ve been taking her there since she was one. It’s a family tradition. I’m having trouble with this life transition for both of us. I’ll eventually adjust but I’m bitterly disappointed right now and angry that life is changing. I’ll work on remaining grateful for the good memories and learning to embrace change. It’s not easy.
Next week is graduation. Mom and I will travel up there Thursday to spend her birthday with her and then graduation is Friday. It’s forecast to rain all day but you never can tell. It makes no difference to me except for the dozen roses I’m going to get for her. My birthday is the following Monday and this will be the first birthday since she’s been born that I won’t get to spend time with her. Again...change. I’ve planned a special birthday to make up for it (except for that lovely PT).
Several of my social groups are starting to meet in person in May but I’m not comfortable with that at this time. They won’t be on Zoom anymore so I’ll miss out unless and until I get comfortable being there in person. I just don’t know.
Hugs to all!
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The changes as my children grew older, past their mid/late 20's, have been the hardest of my life. They're truly their own adult people now. I seldom see them. It's hard to reconcile the babies and children that they were with the adults they've become (they're both in their 30's now). They're both doing very well in their lives...it's me who feels left out and alone. I wish I could be more encouraging to you. My hope is that when they're in their 40's and I'm in my 60's we'll actually be closer...
But @whatever is correct - seeing your daughter graduate will be a blast! And GOOD for you for making your birthday plans. Interestingly, one of the best days of my life (truly) was a Mother's Day a few years back that I spent alone. I planned the day and it just seemed to turn into magic!
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