I gave my N. 9 months of 'carte blanche' (anything he wanted)

I gave my N. 9 months of me confronting him on every level, bringing his family and friends into my problems with him (they were not surprised, nither were they helpful but it's important to have witnesses)

I gave my N. 6 months in marriage counseling.

The Therapist told me, when I had had enough, to RUN!
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