What a ****ing arsehole. So this is what he does to hoover me back in. Because I don't respond to his birthday email, he emails my brother (who I also don't have a relationship with) and LIES saying I don't respond to him, when the fact is any time there has been a message that requires a response I have responded, but his lame birthday message did not require a response.
He sends this message this morning. I've redacted the first paragraph, which was to my brother about their political disagreements and how he wishes they could have a relationship again (Dude, get a clue. None of your kids want anything to do with you. You aren't ****ing trying at all either.)
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The other is that I am closing out your Uncle's estate. There is a little money left to disperse and I will do that soon. The problem I am having is that I have lost contact with Seesaw. She has changed her phone number, I found that out trying to wish her a happy birthday. She doesn’t respond to her email address, xxxx@gmail.com. I have even tried to contact her through her consulting business email, still waiting on a response to that. I am not sure of her mailing address and if you could help me with that, I would really appreciate it.
If you can contact her, please tell her that I’m not trying to get back into her life, she has made it sort of clear that it is something she isn’t interested in. If she is interested in further contact, I’m all in. That goes for you too.
Right now this contact is to get Uncle's estate closed.
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So this is all a lie. In late 2015, at my Uncle's behest (The one who died) I reached out to my bio dad to try and patch things up. He was nonresponsive through a 5 minute conversation. I told my uncle I tried, and left it at that.
Then my uncle died in early 2018. My bio dad reached out to me for help with the funeral because I lived in the city my uncle was being buried in. I agreed to help with the funeral arrangements. In the course of that communication, we texted a few jokes. It seemed like there might be a mild reconciliation so we could at least be congenial. Nope. After the funeral I texted him to thank him for lunch, and he responded "thank Cousin Lisa, she paid" and that was it. Nothing else. And the tone of the text (that's not the full text) was basically, "no, we're done again. I got what I needed from you and now I don't need you anymore."
I determined after that point that I was no longer interested in dealing with him and the abuse.
I responded with this to both my brother and bio father this morning. He totally emailed my brother and copied me to bait me. And it worked, slightly. But I won't be responding anymore.
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You have not sent one communication to me regarding Uncle's estate. I have not received anything to my business email and that is not for personal use anyhow.
My address is the same as is was last year.
XXXXX
Please do not rewrite history about who pushed who or ignored communication. You can't reach out once a year and pretend that's love. I reached out before Uncle died and you did not want to talk. I reached out after the funeral and you also blew me off.
But you're right, at this point I'm not interested. If you communicate something that requires a response to this email address I will respond. I have not responded to random birthday messages when you only have a daughter one day a year. I have also not responded to hostile nasty text messages you have sent in the past.
You have my address now.
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And remember, he's doing all this around my birthday. It's typical NPD parent behavior to ruin someone's holiday and make it all about themselves. I was on a subreddit for people raised by narcissists and I went on their on my birthday to ask about this and incredibly someone had posted just a few minutes before I logged in about the same thing.
Screw it. I'd rather owe the government money than him. I have some leftover money in my SSDI account that I'm waiting to repay (waiting for SSA to ask for it to be repaid). I'm going to take out some of it and send it to him and call it done. I'd rather owe the government than him.