Yeah, OE, he responded back with more gaslighting and saying "communication is a two-way street" and he doesn't ever want to rehash things.

Well, that doesn't work. You hurt me. You and my brother both try to play this game where you don't want to "rehash" things, but what you really mean is you have no intent of dealing with the hurt you caused and actually acknowledging it. You just want to pick up and have a new relationship and have me pretend like you didn't hurt me. IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY. If I were even ever going to consider having any kind of communication or relationship, there would be rehashing, because if you love me, then you care how I feel, and you care that you hurt me. I'm not pretending that I'm perfect. I know I did hurtful things. And I'm willing to discuss them. But I'm not entering into a false relationship to make you feel better.

It was full of gaslighting and guilt-tripping. And I'm not responding.

I'm taking money out of my SSDI savings and sending it to him for the loaned amount, and telling him that I consider our relationship complete.