I don't care about the past or your boundaries (haha as if anyone always stick to any boundaries). You're a woman attracted to men. He's a man attracted to women.

You were both in very vulnerable states. People don't think clearly then. You should get some coffee during the day time. None of this would have happened.

Furthermore, I think you could easily get him arrested for the hand thing. It's a weird, "rape-type" of a move.