Sounds horrid. I am glad you are safe

I’ve been around the block few times and then some. I am yet to meet a man who’d platonically rubbing women’s feet and legs. Not happening. Unless of course he is a professional masseuse and you are in a massage parlor. This dude has other things in mind. Not saying it’s your fault he borderline assaulted you, of course not, but the guy isn’t your true friend in any shape or form. Never see him again please. I think you are a very nice person who gives other people too much credit.

I’d try to find new friends. I don’t think you need to stop liking music but crowd that drinks to the point of passing out and not knowing what the heck they are doing (weren’t there women flirting with your husband in that circle? was the guy assaulting you drunk as well?)might not be the best people for you. Honestly, they lack class.

Sadly activities that involve lots of boozing and partying sometimes attract not the best crowds of people: your husband, this dude, other strange characters. Stick to all women groups for now. Not saying join knitting group or only go to museums, still could be live music. But when you are vulnerable, men company is no good for you, especially these kind of men: party goers/boozers/stoners etc