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He relapsed last year when our neighbor moved in.
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Has there been any discussion of having the neighbor move out?
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He's always been honest with me about it, he's never stolen from me or cheated on me because of it, and I'm in no immediate danger. I want to help him, and I want to figure out how to get out of this pattern I've gotten into where I enable his behavior (whether I mean to or not).
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Yes, this is important. He isn't harming you by violence and he isn't stealing or cheating, but you nevertheless are being harmed because of:
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I feel like I have no support, and that I spend all my money, time, and attention on him.
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Perhaps nar-anon would be of interest:
Nar-Anon Family Groups
Maybe it would be helpful, if you haven't already tried this, to make a list of ways in which your life has changed since the neighbor moved in, and then to discuss this with him.