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Originally Posted by divine1966
Keeping head down, being sweet and not making waves sounds like awful way to live. No offense to very traditional wives but this 2021, not 1721. The heck with keeping head down
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Originally Posted by divine1966
Get real estate agent to show you few things virtually or in person, then do some calculations and see if your husband agrees. My husband is very agreeable but he was very apprehensive about moving, to be precise his OCD flares up at a thought of moving. I found the place I liked and started ball rolling, seeing how excited I was he is on board now so we are buying property I liked, he likes it now too.
Sure you can’t buy property without him being on board but you can start ball rolling like meeting with an agent and do online search.
Now I understand it’s not about buying a house but more about decision making. What if you don’t make decisions but make some steps towards a decision. Look up things. Then call a place. Then calculate etc You might not make final decision but you’ll take some steps
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I can always count on you to say something like this and make me laugh!
I once asked my h’s mom her secret to the long, happy marriage and she said she did everything he wanted.
There were plenty of decisions I had no hesitation to do. I have treated myself right when it came down to it. Have you ever seen the movie Defending Your Life? I love the scene where he spends his last dime to upgrade to first class!
I just have too much tug in several directions with this living situation. I’m extremely neurotic, and feel like who am I to demand what I think I want when he doesn’t want the same.
I’m glad you found a place you like. Another part of my hesitation is I look at listings for buy or rent and everything costs much more than what we have and isn’t half as nice. This has been the case for 25 years! We bought a house we thought we would eventually upgrade, then never did because everything was just much more expensive and not much nicer. If I could only pick up this house and place it down in another location...that would be great!
There was a nice home I thought I found where we want to go, seemed too good to be true. Then the agent disclosed to me it’s just over a train station and the train honks the horn every several minutes all day and night and you hear it!