(((((((((((((((((((( debbie ))))))))))))))))))))) i'm so glad you DID join in

welcome
i understand completely what you're saying. the past comes up and bites us when we don't want it to, huh? especially when there's alot of unresolved issues and emotions dealing with childhood abuse...
can i ask if you're in therapy? it's helped me so much in my life. it's literally saved my quality of life. being in therapy has helped my see how the things that i do relate to my childhood and has helped me to change alot of my reactions and actions. if you're not in therapy, i think you would greatly benefit from it.
i'm sorry that you suffered as a child, and i'm sorry that you still feel that hurt today. it's hard

you have many ppl here that understand what you went thru and are still going thru. we're here for you.
consider seeing a therapist if you're not already? again, welcome