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Seeing how much can be explained by imaging adult behavior as the squabbles and hostilities of children raised in unsupportive family conditions!

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Hi pachyderm,

I fundamentally agree with you. I had similar thoughts, thinking "everything could be so easy!"... We do have a born intuitive feeling of what is good for us and what is bad, and we can feel what would be good for others and what not, don't we?

And it is not even difficult to find that out, because we already know deep inside. We can realize that by heart. So why are there harmful environments and life conditions? I have often been looking for answers on this question. But I haven't found THE satifying answer. Only hints. And I am still pursuing them.

Unsupportive family conditions is one very very important aspect.

But family is not everything, I think. There is enough outside of family that intervenes and does harm to the family members from outside. Family is no save haven, I am afraid. It can be supportive and protective, yes, but I fear, there are limits even to the strongest homes.

Parents and grandparents have their own stories, their own past. I think they cannot be made responsible for everything. Because they became the way they are or were because they were made to become like that. Same thing as with us.

What I have in mind is a solution of how to get rid of both bad inheritances and of bad present influences. What can be done to make it better, for ourselves and our children as well.

Just a few thoughts in addition to yours, I hope you don't mind.

Best wishes,
bluna