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Originally Posted by Have Hope
@ Alive99, nice to see you return to the forums.
"It is one of the questions I've tried to answer for myself though: how could I get these bad experiences later in life?"
Sometimes, there are no answers. And when there are no answers, what can we do but process what has happened to us, integrate it into our lives, work on healing from it, and try to move forward from it all, taking what happened as a lesson in life. I've said this before and above, but really, what more can we do? It's all a process, and sometimes that process can take years.
I do hope you've been able to get on with your life in other ways and are not perpetually thinking about the past with these individuals? We need a mental vacation from traumatic experiences, although often they can engulf us so much that we cannot see or enjoy anything in life. For you, during the last few months, have you been able to take a mental vacation? I am working on this myself. I am not healed from my abusive marriage, which I know will take many more months and a lot more therapy.
Hugs to you in your healing journey and process. |
Hey, nice to see you too. Thank you for your input again. Yeah there aren't always answers, but I still feel like I want to get a full picture of it all, and that will be the answer for me. And yeah, processing it all takes years in my case, and it's also made harder by how I need to make sure to not make my life even worse in the meantime. You asked if I'm thinking about the past with these people, and I'm not trying to, but it comes out anyway, there are many triggers even if I just try to enjoy reading some entertaining book or watching a nice movie. So no, I'm not really able to take a mental vacation from it and it does make it all harder. I don't know if you have any suggestions for that.
Hugs to you too in your healing process - however long it may take or hard it may be, I'm sure it'll eventually get the results.
