Oh these boundary issues yeah...I'm thinking, if you are able to focus on just doing exactly that and no more, what you decided in advance, in this case it's checking up on what's going on with the dying father,... then that is a way to keep boundaries and not get sucked into more contact and manipulative emotions. But I think it definitely means it's going to a burden, requiring lots of efforts to keep up the boundaries in the face of all that, and you would have to calculate the costs of this burden in your life. This is what I am realising myself about keeping boundaries around the people who try to drain me by default.


To respond to your other post, I thought of this guy as a psychopath because of the irresponsible and parasitic life style on top of the shallow emotions & manipulations.