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I know when someone comments that a situation is toxic in my life it's like "NO". It is a challenge but I have the skills to deal with it & the people involved. Sometimes it takes time to determine the necessary skills to use in the challenge but it always gets worked through.
Some have labeled my EX as toxic but in reality he is JUST A JERK who does stupid stuff that affects me negatively & creates difficult situations for me to navigate through. Am I glad I live 2100 miles away now?.......definitely. But I definitely don't call what I am dealing with or those I am dealing with toxic. They are a challenge that has to be faced & resolved.
Other people I have chosen to distance myself from is not because I label them as toxic.... I just don't like their behavior while others do.
Toxic waste is toxic waste to EVERYONE so we can't label a person as toxic when only some of us have issues with them & others are fine with them. It comes down to it more being personality differences that we either choose to be around or not. It is perfectly natural to want to be around people we get along with & stay away from those we don't. Labels are not necessary. It is our own responsibility to take the action that is appropriate for us. It doesn't even really matter what others think of the person except maybe personal validation that what we are sensing about the person may be on the right track.
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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