Words I’d never thought I would say...my husband left me for another woman. I am 33, we’ve been married for 8 years and together for almost 10. This past Saturday, my husband walked out. Sunday he told me he wanted a divorce. By Monday, he was openly going on dates with his girlfriend (also married with 3 kids and now on her 4th divorce), and I found out because someone saw them out that I know.

Fast forward to Friday, 6 days later, and they are both leaving their spouses and dating. Openly dating. She joined him at his softball game with her 14 year old daughter to meet the friends we were just with 5 days earlier as husband and wife..

Oh...and they met at work and he was immediately fired from a great job because of it. He won’t speak to his parents at all because he doesn’t want to be lectured.

He claims he didn’t leave because of her, but because we had a bad year...like a pathetic person, I begged him to stay. He’s dead set on leaving me, but has still tried to sleep with me. I have been taking care of our 3.5 and 5 year old boys and trying to swallow the immense pain to somehow co-parent.

This isn’t the man I knew...everyone is floored. He would never have done something like this. Ever. It’s like he woke up a different person one day. His girlfriend, who also shares the same name as I do, is a drug user and sells drugs, so I worry he may have become involved.

I can’t eat, I can’t sleep. I keep having intrusive thoughts of them together. It’s breaking my heart. I still love him...but he expects me to accept her and it’s been SIX DAYS. Also, I told him she can’t be around the kids due to drug use or come to our marital home while he’s here...he said I was being unreasonable. I feel like he’s lost his mind. I want to help him. I want him to come home.

I feel like I’m drowning in a bad movie.