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Originally Posted by Alive99
Hey, nice to see you too. Thank you for your input again. Yeah there aren't always answers, but I still feel like I want to get a full picture of it all, and that will be the answer for me. And yeah, processing it all takes years in my case, and it's also made harder by how I need to make sure to not make my life even worse in the meantime. You asked if I'm thinking about the past with these people, and I'm not trying to, but it comes out anyway, there are many triggers even if I just try to enjoy reading some entertaining book or watching a nice movie. So no, I'm not really able to take a mental vacation from it and it does make it all harder. I don't know if you have any suggestions for that.
Hugs to you too in your healing process - however long it may take or hard it may be, I'm sure it'll eventually get the results.  |
What I do when I have triggers occur is to shift my focus. I acknowledge the trigger, allow the feelings that result from the trigger to arise and exist, then I shift my focus either back to what I was doing or shift my focus entirely and take a break - like I may get up and stop what I was doing to clean the kitchen, take the trash out or do something active until the emotional impact of the trigger passes. Then I go about my business and my day. I think often times there's no fully escaping triggers, but we can manage our reactions to them and control how we respond to them. Not sure if that helps you any.