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Originally Posted by eskielover
However when someone feels trapped in a toxic situation, I know I for one have responded in a toxic way myself which only adds fuel to the fire. Two toxic's don't make it cancel each other out, it just makes a toxic situation more toxic.
Like with anything toxic, removing ones self totally is actually the ONLY good solution. Also working on ones OWN awareness & responses to situations can help to not get into situations like that in the future. I know it has worked in my situation but I also know that the way I reacted made the bad(toxic) situation worse. I have now learned to respond differently to people like that & keep them at a distance & it has made a huge difference in MY life & I don't have that horrible feeling that I was just as toxic in my own way in relationship as the person I disliked for being toxic. I also know many who would not have found what was "toxic" to me, "toxic" to them
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But that's exactly what happens when you engage or interact with someone who is toxic - the toxic person causes a natural reaction of anger, rage, resentment by their poor treatment and behaviors. It is only natural to react to it and sometimes in a way that meets them at their level.
After noticing the dance that then becomes even more toxic, since the toxic person doesn't know any better, the one who is on the receiving end then has to make an adjustment in how they choose to interact with that person. The only option is to remove oneself from that person and to no longer engage.