I think these catch labels are an effort to get the many to agree and define behavior problem individuals that create unnecessary obstacles in healthy communication and problem solving.

Human beings like structure because it is conducive to how the brain is set up where it’s designed to navigate. Unfortunately some individuals develop poor navigational skills and may end up expecting and even demanding others navigate around their needs and problems and likes and dislikes.

It’s important to understand that most individuals navigate based on what they know and personal life experiences That means the person may not know how to show respect for things others consider of value and importance. This doesn’t always mean there is no value in what the person does know.

Often we don’t get the responses we prefer from other people. And sometimes another person resists learning how to navigate with others that resist unless others do things the way they expect. This can be a challenge to navigate. That is when a decision needs to be made to distance rather than trying to get this other individual to change how they navigate.

Assuming others understand how to work through navigational obstacles like we do can lead to problems and disappointments. And sometimes this lack can deeply affect us on an emotional level. That is when our sense of safety and well being can be deeply affected. This can take place even before we have enough life experience to know how to understand our feelings and what to do about these feelings.

Truth is we learn to navigate all our lives. What one may consider toxic behavior may be something another person developed more skills to navigate where they learned not to absorb on a personal level where it becomes an ongoing obstacle.