I wouldn't share either. Though I did unknowingly before I got married. But now I am married and have a new baby and four kids in the house. I don't know how to handle his disinterest in me and I have no idea how I will stop loving him. Things are not black and white. Either way in my life now would be a total disaster, Dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. In my honest opinion, you will reach your breaking point just as I might some day.