I was in love with a guy who had a wife. He told me he loved me early on. But apparently, he told her he loved both of us. Honestly, if I knew half of what I know now, I would have just cut all ties. All the promises were just lies. We married. Only 2 years in, if I ask for help, I ask to play a game, I suggest intimacy, it is always "maybe" "later" or "tomorrow" I have learned that maybe actually means NO! And later and tomorrow never come. The only thing that seems to go on is watching sports, eating and sleeping. I am no longer important. I tried discussing it with him, but it is like talking to a wall. He says it's all my fault. Well when someone choses just about anything to do but listen to you or communicate, or intimacy, all I can do is wonder what is wrong with me....how did I become invisable...leave this man now if he hasn't made up his mind he may never do it,