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May 10, 2021, 11:15 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2014
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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
Yes, yes and yes. I believe in evolving and redemption.
No matter how screwed a person might be. There’s always an opportunity to evolve and learn.
Maybe, there are limitations because of brain functioning that have been researching currently, but out of these few cases, I do believe in the capacity of human being to have compassion and empathy towards others and the ability to see in the other much more than someone who doesn’t validate us, but on the contrary, constitute a challenge for us to learn.
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This is why I disagree with labeling people this way (or any other way). When we label people we are making it a "them" problem and a "them" solution. It does create a victim mentality of what is done to us. "So and so is toxic and they always make me feel bad." When it's all about other people it does create a victim mentality. When you flip the script to "I don't like so and so's behavior, so I'm not going to be around them that much or I'm going to limit my exposure to them" we make it about our behavior and it gives us control.
Even calling the behavior toxic is not very useful. What exactly are you saying about the behavior? It's more useful to say "this behavior makes me uncomfortable or hurts my feelings or frightens me etc" so you actually know what you're feeling or what your response is versus the label of "toxic" which doesn't really give you much information.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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