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Old May 12, 2021, 06:29 AM
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Originally Posted by jesyka View Post
I have been specific with plans and they all still react the same way. It's so frustrating! If I offered to plan things for our other friends birthday, they would still react the same way. They wouldn't help me plan a thing. They'd only confirm that they'd be there. And they'd mostly come because they both like that woman who's birthday is coming up. One of them has known that lady for 15 years.

The other one flatters her and is always asking about her and talking about her and feeling sorry for her since she has gone through a lot over the past few years. She never ever asks me how I'm doing though. She even looks a bit annoyed when I start talking sometimes. It's very rude and upsetting. She likes to dominate the conversation and focus things on herself and the other women in the group.
Well, I just mentioned the specific plans tip just in case. But if you say they react the same way, it's hopeless.

A good friendship makes you feel warm and loved. If this group of people don't fulfill this, I'm afraid I agree with what other users have said about making new friends. It is indeed not easy, but not impossible!
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'I do', Miss Honey replied, but she said no more.
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Matilda, Roald Dahl
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Thanks for this!
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