Tisha,
You have more influence than you give yourself credit for. IMO, all of us are influenced by the people and information we spend the most time with. IMO, many times, women who have been taking care of children, find themselves trying to figure out "what do I want to do now?" I am just doing what easily falls into my lap and have stopped worrying about what it will be anymore. Acceptance instead of anxiety is my new mode of living. I dislike fighting and arguments. It is what it is.