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eskielover · May 12, 2021 at 12:00 PM

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more people were giving me advice about a very tough situation that had drug my family down over the course of many years. They meant well and the advice I received here was well meaning but it actually proved to be quite confusing having so many people telling me what I needed to do

Maybe this is part of the difference. I never take anything anyone says as something I have to do. I take it as ideas for my consideration to ponder on & use as part of my decision making process. No one has ever successfully told me what to do without it being an idea I find worth considering.

My dad said college was a bad idea....so it made me even more determined to get my degree & a good career.

I told my now ex before we got married that NOTHING was getting in the way of my degree & career. I got pregnant 3 years later & he said I should stay home & go back to my degree 5 years later when I was only 10 months away from my degree. I told him where he could stick that.

When I was trying to protect my mom against the evil home care person I caught abusing her when she was dying of cancer, everyone judged what I did to protect us both. I didn't care what others thought, I had to do what I knew was best. Even if there was some extreme choices I had to make, I KNEW it was the right thing to do. Confidence in my choices.....probably a lot because all my life I had to make choices on my own that were not always what others thought were the right thing to do. Looking back.....exactly what I would do now with more knowledge so trust in my own judgment grew with time & experience.

I now treasure the wise friends I have in my life I can talk ideas over with & I also know those I would NEVER listen to for advice. It is all a growing & learning process that never stops.