Perhaps the thing that truly speaks you just has presented itself yet. And keep looking at listings in the place you want to move to. Don't let your H discourage you from doing your homework. Why couldn't something work out if it could be paid for by renting it part of the time? It is hard to find good properties right now but if you keep on looking--something might come up that could work. You will know it when you see it and you can stand up and insist when the right thing comes along! Sorry to give advice but it is never too late to have a breakthrough....