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Originally Posted by eskielover
In my situation, everything I was diagnosed with (major depression, major anxiety & even my anorexia) went away when I left my bad marriage. It doesn't always happen that way. My T definitely said it showed that my diagnosis was situational & nothing permanent.
We are individuals & we all react differently to situations. Sometimes we need to accept that as who we are & not compare ourselves to others. There are some things about ourselves that won't change any more than the things we want others to change. Sometimes the best we can do is learn how to function better within the constraints of who we are
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The stress from this situation brought out disordered behaviors in me. It brought out the worst in me. Maybe had I chosen a different path, none of this trauma hysteria would have ever happened. Thanks for the reassurance, Eskie!
When the psy question me about my childhood, I did have things happen that mark off the boxes for trauma/disorders, etc…. However, none of that bothered me that much tbh! I never had severe emotional problems before the intense frustration from my marriage.
It’s my reaction that bothers me the most and I have to learn to control. They say it doesn’t matter what someone does to you, it matters how you respond. So, I’ll look at this as a challenge. He is going to keep pushing my same buttons. He has no ability to learn and change although he lies to me and believes his own lies. I have to learn to not respond to his triggering behavior by staying calm, disengaging, not getting upset, seeing it as his problem and not letting it be mine. Much easier said than done, but I want to try this. Let’s give it one month. If no luck, I’ll try plan B- to move without him.