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Old May 13, 2021, 08:08 PM
Alive99 Alive99 is offline
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
What I do when I have triggers occur is to shift my focus. I acknowledge the trigger, allow the feelings that result from the trigger to arise and exist, then I shift my focus either back to what I was doing or shift my focus entirely and take a break - like I may get up and stop what I was doing to clean the kitchen, take the trash out or do something active until the emotional impact of the trigger passes. Then I go about my business and my day. I think often times there's no fully escaping triggers, but we can manage our reactions to them and control how we respond to them. Not sure if that helps you any.

Thanks for your tips. An issue for me is that if I try and block out the memories by getting active then I will get very angry/raging instead of being negative just inside my own mind. This assumes I was able to get active in the first place, which I feel is still the better option, but is just exhausting too. It takes a long time (years) for all this to become less intense, it seems. It is funny because it just feels like, I ignored the negatives until they traumatised me, and now my mind forces me to see and feel them and there's a LOAD to process, though maybe I've processed most of it by now...just I made my life worse (in some ways) in the meantime over these years so I have to undo that too.