because you can do something doesn't mean you should.

think about all the things we all can do, but honesty or a moral fiber or commitment (being a person of our word) prevents us from caving in.

when we think about someone else doing what we want to, like out kids, for example, and there will be pain or anguish involved, we can see we probably need not get started.

plus, there is the premise of - what if the other person was to do to us what we are doing to them?

see, lots of behaviors can be eliminated by following the thinking part through to the consequences of our actions.

love is healthy. sex is healthy. a wholesome relationship is ideal.

married and lovers?

it just doesn't work, and you can pull your head out from any cranial inversion.

once, when there was a world to populate, men had to have many partners to spread his seed. yes. that was so long ago, and it isn't funny to even try to fly that line by anyone today. for so many obvious and various reasons, it doesn't work.

try thinking about your actions and the results they bring, all the way to the consequences and pain it causes somebody at some point, and if you think it doesn't (anyone agreeing this is ok), think about how many women's low self esteem is reinforced by this behavior, how humiliating it is, and how - to be an object is not ones life goal ... women are so much more than sperm receptacles.

peace in disagreement.
nightbird