Oh hmm this is a really interesting perspective that I hadn’t considered. I guess there’s an element of all of this that’s important for consideration that pretty much everything that happened was while I was in crisis. My therapist (and I) knew that I was going to be admitted when he drove me to the ER. So in a sense I guess my expectations for honoring my boundaries were diminished versus what I would normally find acceptable. Before I agreed to the arrangement that evening the other very real possibility was that my therapist call the authorities to have me put under an ECO. Logistically what happened was better for all parties. I did make it explicitly clear that if my therapist talked about anything related to my care with my therapist that he’d be losing his license. My husband actually tried (without malice) to talk about me and my therapist didn’t engage so while I didn’t love the situation, it was nice not to have to spend $20 on an Uber, which is what the norm for my husband and I in this situation.

As far as following me home, I did not argue this. We had agreed on a safety plan prior to that session and my therapist felt like I didn’t follow what we agreed upon by me driving myself to session. Overall, though, I feel like at minimum this would be a good conversation to have with my therapist. Thank you for your perspective.