Labeling is something many do as a way to describe an individual that behaves in ways that can cause problems or disruptions in an environment or group or relationships.

There are ways individuals develop behaviors that get them attention and a sense of presence that they feel provides them with getting their needs met. Human beings tend to use drama to gain attention. However without realizing it human beings tend to show reward when a young child stands out in terms of grasping knowledge and presenting charm and what is considered ideal.

This can create problems in that everyone develops differently. And it’s better to educate in a way that compliments a child’s true potential talents and learning how they learn. Many of these labels result from a child thinking they are not good enough when they don’t get everything right. When we expect some kind of perfection ideal we begin to teach children how to feel bad for what they get wrong instead of gaining pleasure from what they get right. Hence what begins to develop are self esteem challenges which starts to create problems in a child that can last a lifetime.

It is better a child learn to discover self because there is always something a person is good at doing. AND if that is discovered it can be used to learn many things that revolve around whatever it is a child shows an interest in.

For example I have a very old grandfathers clock that is late 1700s. Handed down in the family. It needs repairs and I found a man that has repaired clocks all his life. He was drawn to clocks since he about age 11. And he enjoyed tinkering with clocks so much that he became an expert. Truth is he learned a lot of things through this interest including history and math and how clock mechanics evolved over time. So learning to read was important and math became important and problem solving became important. And he learned how to earn a living repairing clocks which is doing something he enjoys.

It doesn’t matter if he got all A’s or learned Spanish or was perfect or fit into some ideal.

IMHO it’s this need to fit into some ideal that causes so many problems and disorders and self esteem challenges.