Having not visited for about 4 weeks, we have spoken on the phone. The calls are usually tense.

The latest, to advise medication had arrived, was short. Was going to ask if I could visit over weekend but one comment was "just reminding you I still live here". Very welcoming!

It may be an awful thing to say but I don't want to feel forced to visit. My response was "okay". That's all I said. Am not about to relinquish control of my life again.