Hi (((holdingon)))

Some of what you describe are good, cautious behaviors.
Really, can you loan some out?

You seem anxious over loss or rejection.
We all are to some degree, and if you feel like exploring your thinking, or want to gain some perspective on how you are responding at this point, there are good books you can read on the subject, as well as light-hearted ones, about dating.

So, he is or he isn't the right guy for you. We all need time to tell how things really are when beginning a new relationship. If it does goes flat, he wasn't for you, and that is not a reflection of anything wrong on your part, as chemistry is involved too. I'm sure you want to be with someone special. You seem to want commitment, so hold back a little to you meet the guy who fits the bill.

The worst thing we can do is expect someone fit into our lives that doesn't - for whatever reason. Because we are comfortable may not be fair to either person, unless we are 80, and comfortable is what we really want.

Not saying any of this is what you are projecting in your post, just my feelings in general.

Good luck. See how it goes with him. Enjoy the time. Be enchanted but keep your wits.
You will be alright.

peace and love,
nightbird