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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I’ve spend years participating in these forums. Many people talk about their depression being something they just feel, not cause from any specific issue, and they don’t feel like showering, cleaning, etc… They are so depressed they are not functioning normal daily activities.
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I think there is a specific cause/issue more often than people recognise. At least I know with me there was, I just didn't recognise it for a while. And yeah, I'm in the "camp" that doesn't function normal, I am just trying to. It takes very hard work to keep up with the part time remote work.
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My experience is different. I am depressed from a relationship situation. Without that trigger, I am a functional, happy person. No matter how down my situation makes me, I always take care of daily necessities. No one else will do it! It’s my job to cook, clean, care for kids (who are all grown now), etc… I am always wanting to do some activity and distraction, I’d love for someone to suggest it and lift me out of the funk! It’s usually me that lifts myself, and lifts everyone else too. 
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That sound really cool about you lifting yourself like that. What do you usually do for that? I read about your relationship situation, I hope you find a way out of it instead of your depression getting worse. That would be really important, I think.
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I was diagnosed with unspecified mood disorder. That may mean Major Depressive Disorder or it could mean Bipolar, according to my research about what the diagnosis means. I had to research it myself because the doctors won’t even explain it to me. I only saw the diagnosis because the doctor showed me my chart and there it was, which I noticed, and when I asked him what it means, he wouldn’t even explain. As you can see, I am totally frustrated with the doctors and don’t see them anymore. 
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Oh same, I had this "other affective disorder" diagnosis, sometimes "other bipolar disorder" but it's mostly the first as I don't have bipolar episodes.
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Long story short, I haven’t felt I look good over the past couple years. This disparaging relationship and some trauma with a few other ones, has me feeling so down, I don’t care to dress and wear make up or go anywhere, plus, it’s been a pandemic, so no where to go anyway. I have always bathed and cleaned though. Not a great keeper of the home, but adequate.
But, lately, when I have had the up feelings enough to go the extra step to dress nice and spruce up a little, I have felt I look much better and it makes me feel better for that day.
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That sounds really great, and this is going to sound too technical but it's gotta be great as a preventive measure too
That is where I feel like I can't keep it up for long but on better days I can, I am working on having more days like that. More of those days in a string especially, not just 1-2 days here and there.
I do feel like a big part of the way out of the depression and the rut involves having/regaining this abundance mindset, seeing the positive opportunities and taking these opportunities and thoroughly enjoying them. What you describe here is a small (but important) example of that. Dressing up nice and looking attractive to yourself again.
...It's part of the lifting up too, of course, but what I was really asking about is how you lift yourself up to decide to go to that mindset. If you have any way you can share.
Whether mental or physical approaches.