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eskielover · May 15, 2021, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Have Hope

@eskielover, SO true! And I've come to realize this over time. I've been waiting on him this whole time. Granted, we were back together for 2 months recently and I just broke up with him again only 1 month ago. But it's time to file now. Enough of this waiting on him business.

I learned awhile ago. Never wait for someone else to do something you want done. Just do it yourself & get it done.

I tried for 33 years to get my now EX to do things, thinking he needed to learn how to do things but the things he did (mostly financial) I had to go back & clean up the mess he made anyway.

Lol.... Think that is why I love living alone cause there is no one but me to mess things up & I know what I am doing if I do. The one thing I took away from my marriage into my living alone is that I had no one to put expectations on or to try to depend on & the good thing is that it made me totally take on the responsibility for my own life & learn to TRUST my own capabilities a lot more. I get help from professionals for things I can't do myself. (My mechanic was more than willing to remove the screws on my truck tail light I was replacing because they were too rusted for me to remove with the tools I have). I limit the help I need to exactly those things I can't do or don't want to spend time doing now instead of constantly nagging the H to get it done when in reality he probably never intended on doing it in the first place.