ummm... you won't get anything into your Dad' head about his wife, not really.

What can you do?

I can think of one thing, maybe you can get a conversation with his physician and tell him/her you are concerned about your fathers' working long hours, stressing out, etc.

Other than that, it's not your business what he does with his money, although I'm sure your brother and you will be provided for

My experience with young people worrying about their parents hard earned money over their lifetime going to anyone but themselves bothers me. It's not good.

You get what someone wants you to have. No one is entitled to anyones' wealth.
It's a gift today. Not like old times where families died out without the passing on of wealth. Here, we can make our own wealth, if we want it so much. Professional choices abound.

Lots of people are worried about being able to provide for their elderly parents if and when they cannot care for themselves, to me, this is a valid concern.

While I know that some people cut their children out or use their wills to hurt family after they are gone, or deliberately to start family wars - like in the movies, yes, but it is rare, and the people that do these things are not basically good people, in my opinion.

Take care of yourself.
Worry about your own problems and things will sort itself out.

Tell Dad you hope his health is good, and when was his last check-up - since he is coming up on a mile marker b'day, you hope he is seeing his Dr. for routine exam.

peace,
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