Hello, and thank you both for replying so quickly. My brother has always been a bit of a moody character. Even when we were kids, he'd be horrible to me one minute, but when he felt like it, he would nice as could be to me. When he left the first left my parent's home at 19 when he joined the military, he was very independent, and he seemed absolutely fine. Then he returned home after his enlistment was up. (He didn't have any wartime duties, and we know he enjoyed his military experienced very much). We began to notice moody, isolated, and angry behavior when he returned home, but we thought it was just the stress of re-entering civilian life, finding a job, and living with the parents again. That was about 4 years ago. He had since moved away and started his new career, and he wasn't in my parent's household any longer, so I suppose neither my parents or I noticed his behavior since he lived far away. I noticed his odd behavior again when he came to my home for a visit a few years ago, and we went on a road trip. For no reason, he broke out into a violent fit of rage, and blamed it on the weather (as it was windy and rainy). It was then that I first told him that he was worrying me, and that behavior wasn't normal. He agreed with me that he had a "problem" and he didn't know what to do. I told him that I thought he needed help, and that he shouldn't be ashamed, and he just agreed, but he never made the effort to get help. Well, now he just bought his new home, he's back staying with my parents again until it is finished, and we've all noticed his moody, angry, and isolated behavior again and it is worse. My fiance and I visited at Christmas, and it was the same thing then. He never made an effort to spend time with the family, and whenever he's around, he basically does something or says something to spoil our good time. As far as work, he's able to hold down a job, and we know he has work aquaintances that like and love him. He does well in his job, and is very responsible and hard working. As far as we know, the only one's he is horrible with is his family. He definetely doesn't put much effort into making and maintaning friendships. He has expressed to me many times that he would like to have a girlfriend. We are all so terribly worried about him, and I'm hoping that my father can get through to him. He was going to talk to him today, and I can't wait to speak to my family to see what my brother's answer to getting help is.
Can either of you, or anyone offer any opinion on what my brother's problem may be?
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