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Suzy said:
Sometimes I think other vulnerable, sensitive or hurting people can pick up our "vibes" that we are safe to talk
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I found this statement interesting. I hope I'm safe to talk to. Maybe therapy has affected the vibes I'm sending others. I just wish I didn't still feel so incredibly anxious and inept in dealing with people on a personal level. Inside my head is running a zillion algorithms trying to figure out what I should do or say next. For some reason I really, really internally stress out if the person starts crying. I just want them to stop as quickly as possible. I need to find a way to deal this better.
Soliaree,
Your comment made me think about my youngest son's 2nd grade teacher last year. He had to change classrooms part way into the school year. She was so warm and caring it just made the transition so much easier on him. I could tell she really cared about her students and saw her role as being much more than a deliverer of academic content. I thanked her during one of our parent-teacher conferences. She waved off my thank you and said that what little she gives is returned in 10-fold. I didn't really get it. Then she told me about one day she when she was stressing out because the class was not listening and the her lesson had seemed to get totally off track. In her frustration she handed out some independent desk work and retreated to her desk to regroup. She said my son appeared at her desk and politely said, 'Ms. ___ you look like you need a hug. Can I hug you and help you feel better?' She said, 'It was exactly what I needed, so I accepted.' Sometimes I wonder if my kids were switched at birth, LOL.
Pach & Fuzzybear
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