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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
I wish I knew what I could say to help ease your frustration/anger and fear (thats what I got from your post). I guess thats what I would feel if I were going through the situation you describe and the only thing I know about you is this post. Is that what you're feeling?
Its OK for you to feel any emotion. Emotions aren't bad IMO, it's what we as humans do when we feel a certain way that may or may not be bad. I think if you felt a bit of relief after posting, then you vented very well.
Has the communication issue and sudden explosion into a shouting match always existed or is it just recently? You mentioned it was every so often. I guess I'm wondering if/when there was happier communication and what's changed. If you've posted it before, I haven't read it and for that I apologize. I'm a newbie here and I admit that lots of reading hurts my eyes.
I hope that you find a bit of calmness soon.  |
I feel all those except fear.
Honestly years back he was abusive to me n I had online affairs. I left. We divorced.. but the DV shelter I was staying st kicked me out 3 months after leaving him .. so I returned. Other than one abusive event that was really caused by both our MH issues being triggered n we both went at each other basically just cuz of stress. It's been about 5yrs so I don't imagine it will start again (he literally leaves the room if he feels he needs to now)... but yes sometimes he still goes through times no matter what I say ... its worthy of yelling about. I dont know how to deal with it n he often has no clue why he does it n given therapy made things worse for us before we wont do that again ...
So yea sometimes all I know to do is vent.
Welcome to psychcentral. Sorry you caught me on a angry post. This is not my usual. Usually I help others or pour out my emotions or etc. Just really frustrated. Feel free to look at the "statistics" section on my account ... that's where you can see posts i have written n commented to in past.
Anyway, thanks for showing you care.
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