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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
ptsd is a beast. I have abandonment and trust issues from an emotionally and mentally abusive marriage. I struggle with how to tell family and friends when something they say or do triggers a flashback. Logically, I know that the person didn't intend their actions or words to hurt me. I just don't know how to raise awareness of my personal triggers without possibly making them feel blamed.
I have this on my list of topics to discuss at my next appointment, but that is still a week away. I don't want to avoid talking to this person or be over alert to be prepared for a flashback. I guess my question really is, if you were the person who I need to talk to, what would help you understand how your behavior affected me without feeling like I was blaming you?
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I've been dealing with my own mental health issues for over 35yrs (some of that I had no clue what was going on .. judt knew I was miserable).
As far as your question...
I started off trying to tell people "I cant handle talking about that" but I found that just gave them ammunition to pick on me. Then I started trying to tell them "that hurts to talk about too much" and they either got angry or picked on me. So I went quiet. Then they started noticing my reactions caused by the ptsd, but even that wasnt always good.
In the end .. I just tell them, let them react however they want, tell myself how they react us everything to do other them, and nothing to do with me. Then see if they respect my needs or not. If not, I have limited it no contact with them. If so. . alls good.
That's how I deal though. Hope you find your way soon bc it's hard. ❤