I think it has to go both ways, though, you’re two people in a kind of relationship? I’m trying to organise my thoughts here, but something I watched on YouTube about PTSD recovery kind of comes to mind - to heal, it helps to “give” love/care rather than just receive it. Genuine caring relationships are a two way street. In any case, if you’re a caring/empathetic person, it’s not surprising you’d end up wanting to give something back to your T at some point.