I haven’t told him I care about him and probably never will even though I do, as I’m pretty sure I would be met with silence or a response like LonesomeTonight got ‘you can’t care about me as you don’t know me.’ My T reveals very little about himself, I only know he is married and has kids because I looked him up on social media. I’ve no idea about any of his likes or dislikes. He is very much a blank canvas which I’ve told him I struggle with. But last week he did tell me he was in pain due to a bad back, so he may need to stand up and walk around for a little while. I know this will make me want to ask him when I see him next how his back is, but he would view this as overstepping boundaries, but to me it’s just a way to show I care.
I also wouldn’t tell him I care about him because I worry he would automatically assume there was more to it and think there was some romantic connotation to it which is definitely not the case at all. My transference is all paternal based but I get the impression he sometimes thinks I have romantic transference towards him.