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Old May 16, 2021, 12:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Bill3 View Post
1. He was abusive for years, you can hold him accountable for that.

2. Allegedly finding God at this late date doesn't change the abusive past.

3. If he were truly religious he would want and pray for what is best for you, he would not not being using God as a tool to shame you and drag you back to him.

4. You don't need to justify your decision to divorce to him or to anyone.

My suggestion is to keep moving forward on your own on the divorce, and to block and not respond to whatever methods of communication he uses to feed you his claims and demands.
Thanks Bill! Excellent words of wisdom and advice. I’m feeling far better than I was when I posted this morning when I felt completely disempowered. I realize my strength lies in leaving him and in ceasing all forms of contact. Both these things are in fact most empowering. It’s like I’m taking my life back.
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